December 2nd, 2010


It takes two

I was sad for my friend when she shared her story. That her husband had an affair with another woman who was single with a young kid. They have two of their own but he told her that he didn't want them nor did he love her anymore. How hurtful is that? So she's filing for a divorce and trying to pull herself together and bring up the kids.

The sad reality is that this story is no longer uncommon. Over the last few weeks, I have had friends going through divorces. My friends are not always the victims. My friend said that it was unfair that women are always at the losing end and it's always the men that betrays. But I told her that was untrue as women do have affairs too and both men and women are capable of cheating on their spouse. I try my best to listen and it's hard to not be able to help. You can't judge as you only hear one side of the story and you can only hope that you words will offer some form of comfort.

I wonder what is it in our generation that marriages don't last? Is it because people don't regard marriage as a sacred and serious commitment? And that there is always an alternative way out - should things don't work out. In the generation of our grandparents, most marriages were arranged. Couples married without knowing the other, there was no dating involved whatsoever. Yet, the marriage lasted and you'll be surprised to know that love did grow and develop and exist between couples in arranged marriages. Why is it now that we have the freedom to choose who we want to fall in love with and get married to, can't remain faithful and true? What is fundamentally the issue?

I pray and hope that when I do get married, the vows to one another will remain true and honored and years down the road, we will still be holding hands, in love with each other, sharing our lives together. It won't be smooth sailing, it won't be easy. It will take a lot of effort on both sides to make things work. As I have written before, a relationship and marriage is always a work in progress. You can't sit and expect things to grow and develop if you don't make an effort. Many get caught up in the whole wedding affair forgetting that that is really just a very small part of it all. It is rather, the start of a beautiful journey together where it's no longer just about 'me' but about us. And it won't be all sugar and rainbows. People change as time goes by and it's the couples that change and grow together and work through the obstacles and issues together, that stay together.

There is a blog that I follow. I was inspired by her will power in weight loss. If you read more about her here, you will know why. She recently wrote about how she met her husband. The story is a bit astonishing or rather perhaps quite common in the States these days. But she met him online and they got engaged just 4 days after meeting! It's almost unheard of in our culture.

I don't quite believe in love at first sight. Truth be said, I didn't even like B.T when we first met. You see, he smacked my butt the first time he met me, totally sober, cheeky and trying to get my attention. But all that went through my mind was - Another obnoxious, arrogant stupid tall American! He was quite clever in his chase and I guess the rest is history. I am a bit skeptical when couples go through a whirlwind courtship and marry shortly after. But there are several that have proven that it's not really about how long you've been together that really matters.

Tricia, the writer of that blog, shared how after 4 years, her husband surprised her and if you read her story, it will touch your heart. It was very thoughtful what he had planned for her and it's quite obvious that they are both still very much in love. And in some way, amidst the depressing stories that I heard recently, this at least brought some hope.

I hope that for all those out there that unfortunately don't have a 'happy ending' for whatever reason and the marriage has failed, that they will be able to heal and be stronger from it. And as for me, I am all the more determined to put my best effort into my current relationship and nurture and grow together with him and not take things or him for granted.

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VII Athletics Club

It appears to be the case that the bulk of co-workers that leave the company, land up opening a related business. One opened a basketball specialty store, another a sports factory outlet door and my ex Thai co-worker jumped onto the bandwagon too and opened an awesome sneaker shop and he and his wife design some of the products that are sold in this store.

The origin behind the name of the store is interesting. 'V' stands for his surname and his wife's name. 'VII' represents the number '7' in roman numerals and 7 is his favorite and lucky number. The store decor and inspiration is very interesting. It resembles a church and in fact, the fitting rooms almost feels like a 'confession room'. There are beautiful stained glasses and premium wooden fixtures. Almost everything display is an art by itself. You'll be able to find premium basketball kicks and some flashy sneakers here. But I think what is really popular is the t-shirts that are designed by B himself with rather outrageous graphics :P

This cool concept shop is based in Bangkok in the heart of Siam Center and if you are visiting, do check it out.

Website here, Facebook fan page here

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Of decor and names

I get a daily dose of beautiful house decor and stuff from Apartment Therapy. I am just amazed at the sheer amount of content that is uploaded to this site on a daily basis. In fact, I usually don't have time to browse through all of it. However, it is a great read whenever I need some inspiration.

We are pretty much done with the house decorations and all except for a few loose ends - waiting for our rug to arrive and to move out the old mirrored dresser. I still find myself walking into furniture stores to take a browse around. Discovered a few more which I had fun just looking around.

Some were asking me about the Molecule table that we purchased. It's Italy made and Molecule distributes the furniture produced by Resource furniture. They don't offer the entire range though. The table that I got is the Trendy but in a different color. It's quite pricey but the quality and functionality of it is totally worth the investment. I can't recall exactly the cost (a couple grand) as there was some store discount and we got it 9 months ago and it was in storage! As B.T said, we literally almost built our entire decor around that table!

To view more of the products, check out the video below - some of the innovations are pretty rad! Definitely furniture that I would consider even when I get a bigger space in future.

On a completely unrelated note, Yahoo! news posted something that caught my eye. To give you some background on why this even remotely interests me, is that since young, I always had a fascination about names. I even had a tiny book of names where I would look up the meaning of all my friends' names. They say that a name almost define who a person is - true and false! Coincidentally, my name Andrea and my Chinese name sort of mean the same. Andrea means 'womanly' and my Chinese name half means 'graceful'. However, I'm quite klutzy rather than graceful for sure! I was also exceptionally intrigued about the variations of my name and had a whole long list of it. As to why the fascination, I have no idea.

The article that Yahoo! posted was quite interesting. In fact, most of the popular names of the decade listed there are the names that all my friends have named their kids. There is even an explanation to why people have started coming up with variations of classic names etc. Quite interestingly, my current favorite name for my future kid is listed in several of the lists. Popular or common? It doesn't matter. Also, I noticed that the other name chosen wasn't in any of the lists. Hmmm.

To the many expecting mommies out there, choose your baby's name wisely! The funniest name that I have heard, till date (not making this up), is 'ABCD'. Yup. ABCD is the name and it is pronounced as 'Ab-see-dee'. And many strange others :P

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